Monday, August 27, 2007

Netiquette

Okay...so I have started my Graduate program in Instructional Technology. Yeah!! And part of our instruction was that we are to use proper "netiquette." I quote from our handbook, "Return e-mails in a timely manner." So my question to all of you is, what is considered a "timely manner" in order to be considerate and proper? I know that in the past I have been accused of dying or falling off the end of the earth because it has taken me a month or more to respond to an email, so I figure that wasn't my best netiquette. But to be truly considerate, what is required...a response within 24 hours or perhaps 48 hours? Am I telling a person, hey you don't mean squat to me if I don't respond to you within three days? I feel bad when I have taken a long time to respond to some of my friends and family. It's not that they don't mean much to me, it's just that sometimes I get really busy (like working 100 hours in a week and a half's period of time) and I just can't get around to responding quickly. Is there a proper way to say, "Hey I'll get back with you in the next...I don't know...two weeks or so?" Wouldn't that seem rude too?

I guess I would ask the same question of "Textiquette." What is considered proper response time there? Is it rude to wait 24 hours to respond? I know that I often begin to wonder after a few hours if I haven't received a return text, and I know the other person is a texter. Also, how about responding to someone's voice message? (Would that be Voice Messagingiquette?) All these new fangled technologies require that we use proper etiquette, so I guess it would be a good idea to know what the common consensus is of what is proper.

7 comments:

Thaddeus said...

It depends on the nature of the email. For business, (at least where I work) within twenty minutes would be a timely response, but you shouldn't get really peaved until it's been at least a day.

If it's so important that you get anxious about a response, then a simple phone call can get you the information you need.

Kendra said...

So how about in the world of friends and family? Is a "timely response" 24 hours?

I'm actually glad I'm going into technology...it means I'll be looking at my email everyday, so I can answer more promptly.

Thaddeus said...

Among friends and family email and texting are casual communicative devices. You should respond when you can (I'd give you as much as three days on a weekend), but they have no right to get angry with you as long as you have a phone number.

I see a phone call as much more urgent, and ignoring a voicemail for more than a day (depending, of course, upon its contents) is tantamount to ignoring a person in person. ('Course, there are some people you might want to do that to anyway).

Jinx said...

Well I'd definately fail a phonequette/voice-mailtequette course, but I'm okay with that. In my opinion, responding to one of these forms of communication in the non-business world is REALLY dependant on what the message was that was conveyed.

In my opinion, a "Hey, I just wanted to chat" or a "Hey we're gonna go do something tonight & we wanted to invite you" message are ignorable. I know many people feel otherwise, but those types of messages are really just relaying some piece of info, and don't really warrant a response. The info was relayed. Good 'nuff.

Now if the message is asking a question that NEEDS a response, I'd say within 24-48 hours...unless it's a more timely type of question.

There should be messagingaquette! I think that leaving a message like "Call me, I want to talk to you about something" is terrible!! I don't want to just call somebody to talk about something that I have no idea what it is. Throw me a freakin' bone here! If it's something important, tell me what that something is so I know it's actually important. Yeesh.

In the business world, however, I think responding to emails ASAP is HUGELY important, especially in the tech field. I gotta say, though, I'm not sure about where Thad works, but at MY work, I FREQUENTLY have sent business-related questions that needed responses that never came. It's EXTREMELY annoying.

...and once again I've written a novella. Honestly not my intention!

AG said...

I shall enter into this conversation becuase I think that it is funny that the three of you are talking about it. All of you have some interesting track records with communication. :)I try and respond to everything in a timely manner which does create some anxiety in my life. I don't respond back to texts or phone messages when I know that the person will be going to sleep. But if the computer is on I frequently have long conversations with Kendra after eleven. Though at times Thad will maybe respond to IM's and then jump of the net like a grasshopper on a hot stove. I chalk that up to his springey nature. And there is the void of Jared's world. Where nothing is responded to. But I have to say that Jared's face to face communication is deeply satisfying and thus his technical communication silence is permissable. So is face to face the best way--are we moving away from that? Writing is so subjective--a sarcastic comment may be taken as seriousness even among close friends who have known each other for years. Like this post--the intended tone for my audience and genre is fond and amused, there is a possibility it could be taken otherwise. I think with all things that an once of charity can grease the hinges of our technical communiques and life will be better. A timely response thus become relative to the intended audience. And thus my novella ends.

Elissamae said...

I think you are all hilarious, and I have thoroughly enjoyed reading all your input...although I have none of my own :)

Elissamae said...

none that is new, that is...I agree with Jared and Thaddeus and Kendra and Alisha -- all of you